Thursday, January 9, 2014

In Praise of Jimmy

I spoke to a former co-worker today when I called my former place of employment with a concern regarding a recent bill. She sounded so happy when she realized who I was, and stated she had been thinking of me of late, wishing I and a few others who also left the company still worked there, because then "I know we could get through this" (an exceptionally heavy workload, would be my guess). Her indirect praise, and the genuineness of her tone and expressed delight, gave me a much needed boost.

It is very easy when you spend your days at home, alone, without regular social feedback--good or bad--to lose sense of your abilities, good or bad. Working to break into publishing can compound the shaky-feeling. Today's chat with my former workmate reminded me of my abilities, and more importantly, how good it feels to receive positive feedback. I must remember this in my daily encounters and share with others what I appreciate about them. At the same time, I must remember that if the only person in the world that appreciates me, is me, then I have enough.

I am enough.

As are you.

Be the change you want to reflect, and love the person in the mirror; she's the only one that truly has your back.
Microsoft Clip Art

And Jimmy, thank you. I miss you, too.


It is no use saying "we are doing our best." You have got to succeed in doing what is necessary. ~Sir Winston Churchill


Lara Lacombe said...

I love this idea of countering negative thoughts with 2-3 positive remarks. I'm going to try this the next time I find myself entering the negativity spiral!

Deborah said...

I find it helpful. I hope you do too!

Marianne (Mare) Baker Ball said...

I can so relate to this. The negative thinking, than wondering how much I should change my work to please others. I go back and forth between seeking trad. publishing and self-pub as well. It can all make me crazy at times. But, in the end, we just keep plugging away, don't we?

Deborah said...

Hi Mare! Thanks for popping in.

And yes, it is crazy-making at times. And yes again, all we can do is keeping plugging away at it. It's the only thing that keeps us sane. *g*